Some people do many things well when they’re stressed. Feeling sexy usually isn’t one of them. Stress at work, home, or in relationships can happen to anyone. Learning how to handle it in a healthy way really helps. You can do a lot of it yourself, and a counselor or doctor can also help.
Problems with your partner are among the top s*x-drive killers. For women, feeling close is a major part of desire. For both sexes, watch for fallout from fights, poor communication, feeling betrayed, or other trust issues. If it’s tricky to get back on track, reach out to a couples counselor.
A drink may make you feel more open to s*x. But too much alcohol can numb your s*x drive. Being drunk can also be a turn-off for your partner. If you have trouble drinking less, seek help.
Too Little Sleep
If your s*xual get-up-and-go is gone, maybe you’re not getting enough sleep. Do you go to bed too late or rise too early? Do you have a sleep problem like trouble falling or staying asleep, or a condition such as sleep apnea? Anything that messes with a good night’s rest can mess with s*x. Fatigue saps sexy feelings. Work on your sleep habits, and if that doesn’t help, talk to your doctor.
You don’t lose your s*x drive once you’re a parent. However, you do lose some time to be close with kids under foot. Hire a babysitter to nurture some time to be partners as well as parents. New baby? Try s*x during baby’s nap time.
Some drugs can turn down desire. They include some of these types of medications:
Blood pressure medications
Birth control pills (some studies show a link; others don’t)
Switching drugs or dosages may help — ask your doctor about that and never stop taking any medicine on your own. Tell your doctor, too, if your s*x drive stalls soon after you start taking a new drug.
When you’re overweight or obese, desire often dims. It could be that you don’t enjoy s*x, can’t perform like you want to, or are held back by low self-esteem. Working on how you feel about yourself, with a counselor if needed, may make a big difference.
Men with ED (erectile dysfunction) often worry about how they will be able to perform sexually, and that worry can drain their desire. ED can be treated, and couples can also work to keep it from affecting their relationship.
The “T” hormone, testosterone, fuels s*x drive. As men age, their T levels may drop a bit. Not all lose the desire for s*x as this happens, but some do. Many other things — from relationships to weight — also affect a man’s s*x drive and testosterone levels, so there’s not a one-size-fits-all answer for every man.
Being depressed can shut off pleasure in many things, including s*x. That’s one of many reasons to get help. If your treatment involves medication, tell your doctor if your s*x drive is low, since some (but not all) depression drugs lower s*x drive. Talk about it with your therapist, too.
For many women, s*x drive dims around menopause. That’s partly about symptoms such as vaginal dryness and pain during s*x. But every woman is different, and it’s possible to have a great s*x life after menopause by tending to your relationship, self esteem, and overall health.
via: INFORMATION NIGERIA